Curve Balls ....................................

You just landed your dream job earning more money making it easier to save more money; home-run!  

Your daughter was accepted to her #1 college choice on a full scholarship; home-run!

Your brother just had his first baby and you're super excited to be an aunt; home-run!

After flying through green pastures, celebrating these homeruns, you grab a seat and close your eyes to relish on the beauty of it all. ​As soon as you open your eyes, the fastest curve ball you've ever witnessed is coming towards you. When life gives you lemons, they say to make lemonade. What do you make when life throws you fast curve balls?

The money in your savings account has dramatically decreased to repair your flooded basement because home insurance doesn't cover it; curve ball! 

Your daughter received another letter from her college stating they made a typo on the letter and she will not be attending that college; curve ball!

Your brother calls to say his wife miscarried...you hang up the phone with the curve ball stuck in your throat; curve ball!

The phone rings again...your grandmother died' curve ball!

Now, you sit! The curve balls are sitting heavy on your chest. You can't seem to calm yourself and the curve balls are in various parts of your body. You feel the pressure. Your head is pounding.

The sound of mail being placed into your mailbox snaps you out of your head and for that split second, you are now focused on the task of reading the mail in hopes of a distraction.

The first piece of mail is $300 fine notification by the city for having too many times for false alarms. The second piece of mail is a notice stating your mortgage has increased by $400 because your mortgage company failed to take out enough money to cover last year’s escrow. Now, your once cushy savings is gone.
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The room begins to spin because all those curve balls have knocked you on your ass. And it’s only Tuesday! How are you going to make it through today? The rest of the week?

Cry.

Drink wine.

Eat comfort food…or not eat at all.

Self-medicating discomfort isn't the way to handle discomfort. Allow yourself to sit with your uncomfortable feelings because you are human. Staying present is the only way to find a solution to current problems and fully go with the ebb of life’s curve balls as a means to adapt! 

Life has a way of always testing you, for the good or bad! The reframe or new outlook is what will help you bounce back. A few reframing thoughts or new outlook could be:
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• I am still employed and thankful I had enough savings to cover the basement repairs! 
• Your daughter was able to receive several offers to other colleges and full scholarships! 
• Your grandmother is no longer suffering in pain and has died peacefully.

More curve balls are sure to come. Remember, for every curve ball there's a homerun waiting to be hit out the park!